EP20 Breaking Free From People Pleasing
APPLE | SPOTIFY
In the quest for authenticity, we must confront the roots of people-pleasing embedded in our past. Join me as we excavate these roots, gaining clarity and control over our narrative. It's time to break free and celebrate the power of being true to ourselves
Today I’m thrilled to take you on a journey through a topic that hits close to home for many of us – people-pleasing. In today’s episode, we delved deep into the intricacies of this behavior and explored practical steps to break free and embrace authenticity.
Understanding the Impact
People-pleasing is more than just a habit; it’s a coping mechanism that often leads us to sacrifice our true selves for the sake of immediate comfort. In our quest for external validation, we may find ourselves disconnected from our authenticity, navigating relationships and societal expectations on a slippery slope. The toll it takes on our well-being, both physically and mentally, is a high price to pay for the illusion of comfort.
Root Causes and Childhood Blueprint
To truly understand and overcome people-pleasing, we must excavate the roots embedded in our past, specifically in our childhood blueprint. Our early experiences, family dynamics, and societal expectations shape this blueprint. If approval and love were tied to meeting others’ expectations during our formative years, the seeds of people-pleasing were likely planted. This learned behavior becomes an automatic response ingrained in our psyche, affecting how we navigate the world.
The Power of Boundaries
Managing the delicate balance between business and family responsibilities can be challenging, but establishing clear boundaries is key. Boundaries are not walls; they’re bridges that connect our authentic selves with the outside world. As a mom entrepreneur, I’ve found asking myself, “Is it making me happy? Is it making me money? Is it giving me peace?” helps to prioritize tasks and decisions. Boundaries protect our time, asserting our worth and reinforcing our commitment to authenticity.
Overcoming the Fear of Disapproval
The fear of disapproval can be paralyzing, hindering our ability to authentically express ourselves. By defining our values, shifting our focus to our mission, cultivating a support system, and celebrating imperfection, we can overcome this fear. Your journey, choices, and business are uniquely yours, and embracing this individuality is a powerful step toward authenticity.
Practical Steps to Break Free
In the podcast, we discussed concrete steps to break free from the cycle of people-pleasing. From self-reflection to setting clear priorities, practicing saying ‘no,’ establishing firm boundaries, embracing imperfection, and celebrating small wins – these steps form a roadmap to reclaiming authenticity.
As we wrap up this blog post, remember that authenticity is not a destination; it’s a continuous journey. By celebrating who you are, you inspire others to do the same. Let’s break free from the constraints of people-pleasing together and raise a virtual toast to authenticity. You’ve got this!
