EP25 Let’s Talk Mom-Guilt for Working Moms
In reality, it is more like: A home that has floors not clear of clutter since 2015, kids with negotiation skills surpassing my education, and a partner questioning life choices in the fetal position. Let's dismantle the myth of the picture-perfect life we see online and focus on our unique journey.
Welcome back to another heartfelt episode of “Ditch The Debate & Make It Happen” podcast. I’m your host, Taniel, and today we dive into the relentless Mom Guilt. Coming off the festive season, the pressure to live up to unrealistic standards peaks. Let’s unravel the true essence of Mom Guilt, explore its sources, and discuss its profound impact on mental health.
Defining Mom Guilt
Mom Guilt is that ever-present feeling of not measuring up to an impossible standard. The picture-perfect life portrayed on social media contrasts sharply with the reality of cluttered homes, challenging children, and the constant juggle of multiple roles. Let’s debunk the myth that we can have it all at the same time.
Sources of Mom Guilt
- Societal Expectations: The idealistic versions posted online are mere moments, not real life. Let’s focus on our own journey.
- Self-Imposed Standards: Generational expectations and adopting numerous roles create unrealistic pressure. We need to redefine our standards and cut ourselves some slack.
- Comparisonitus with Other Moms: Everyone has their own set of problems; it’s about how we deal with them. Comparison only adds unnecessary stress.
- Balancing Work and Family: The balancing act is a real challenge. Unrealistic expectations stem from societal pressure.
Impact on Mental Health
The pursuit of impossible standards leads to feelings of inadequacy, anxiety, and overwhelm. It’s crucial to address the impact on mental health and break free from the cycle of self-doubt.
Overcoming Mom Guilt
- Reframe in Journal: Focus on positive aspects to counter feelings of inadequacy.
- Reset Expectations: Roll with it, control what you can, and let go of unrealistic expectations.
- Be Present and Meditate: Cherish good moments and use them as anchors during tough times.
- Prioritize Self-Care and Self-Compassion: Treat yourself with kindness and understanding, setting a powerful example for your children.
Mom Guilt is real, but it doesn’t have to dominate our lives. Embrace self-compassion, ditch comparisonitus, and remember – You’ve Got This!
